We often complain about the things we did not do or places we never visited or that jeans you didn’t buy. The phrase ‘I wish…’ is employed so casually nowadays that it is losing its real meaning to me. Let’s look at some of the similar common sentences used by people I’ve met in last 1 week.
‘I wish… I was a News reporter and not a corporate…’
‘I wish… I went to that place/trip/ride/country/holiday…’
‘I want to join the Gym but…’ (Here but is equivalent to I Wish)
‘I wish… I told her how much I love her…’
‘I wish… I asked him to not to marry that girl…’
‘I wish… I visited my father one more time before…’
‘I wish… I had controlled my anger or words that night…’
I wish this… I wish that… on the contrary, what are you doing? Are you doing anything to get or be what you wish for? Or you just wish for those beautiful dreams and that life but every time the deciding moment comes and asks you to act, you just chicken out by making some stupid excuse or putting some other task or job on higher priority.
Gandhi said ‘Whatever you do in life will be insignificant, but it's very important that you do it, because nobody else will.’
We are always afraid of doing the things which we crave for the most. The reason behind this is simple; they are very close to our heart. They are linked with our Past, Present or Future. They are the things those will decide or change the landscape of our lives. They ain’t easy. They are difficult. They are crucial and require hard-work, temperament and at times sacrifice.
For instance, there are many great businessmen
who started their career with the odds and everyone criticized them including even their own families
but they perceived and took the courage to make their
dreams real. Many artists, writers, travelers and thinkers quit their
well-settled, blooming and successful jobs to pursue their ambitions. Few of
them were super wealthy and they quit it all, gave up their riches to become a
saint. That’s a big sacrifice.
So to me, it’s not important
what you have today. Important is – Is that what you want?
I
am not saying that sitting in the same cubicle and working 10 hours a day, 5
days per week is a bad thing but surely it is not the most exciting thing too. To
that specky girl from my office who says that she is content with this life, I’d
like to say that, ‘You’re lying. There has to be something more
than just that. Something that you have always wanted to do!’
Guys, shit happens to everyone. We are in our 2o’s or 30’s. We all have had heartbreaks, job layoffs, exam failure, credit card fuckups and other ‘big failures’ once or other time. The reason we are afraid to do what we want to do is because we are scared of getting hurt again. That ain’t right. It does not even sounds logical to me.
Picture this, ‘When you are in your 60’s and sitting on the porch of your house, recollecting the earlier days and all that you have earned and all that you have… and then you ask yourself…
Is that all?
Could it have been better? More meaningful and satisfying!
Is the person sitting next to you today the right person or just compensation to your stupidity for not asking the right person out?
Are you willing to live that day with a heavy heart for the things you should have done in your early days and you didn’t do (doesn’t matter why)?
Don’t settle down with that wrong guy just because the right guy for you is currently fooling around with some stupid girl. Don’t give yourself this bullshit ‘If it’s meant to be, it will happen.’ Just wait while he is out gallivanting the streets with the wrong one. You wait for your turn. It may take some time, sometimes some years too. Fight for that person. Fight with that person. You deserve to fight for what you love and years later when you both would be together for a decade, one day he will kiss you saying ‘Thanks for saving me…’ He will realize how important it was when you fought for him.
It may take a few years and a handful of mistakes, but when that moment comes, right here with you, it’s extraordinary. It’s miraculous. A feeling of genuine happiness, comfort, and security.
Try to live everyday in a way that when you think of it tomorrow, you don't have to say to yourself, 'Gosh, I wish I had lived it better.' All we can do is do our best. To relish this remarkable life. In order to do that, sometimes you will have to do some mistakes and it is really okay.
I can tell you a trick that you can follow and help yourselves to enjoy this life even more. Have some fun while… living.
Live the life every day twice. Once when it is living with you that includes all the tensions, worries and nervousness’s that has surrounded you entire day and the next one noticing, just realizing how it went actually; like a movie. What sweet and lovely things we missed on and what moments we didn't laugh but we should have.
There is a song by Baz Luhrmann called ‘Everybody’s Free… (Sunscreen)'. He says worrying about the future is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble-gum; the real trouble in your life will always be the things that never crossed your worried mind.
My point is; it is alright to be young and careless sometimes. It is alright to be in love sometimes. Sometimes it is all we need.
No one can prepare you for what happens when you are in love. When you see that person somewhere or I should say everywhere and you know it's your destiny calling now. No one can prepare you for love and fear. No one can prepare you for the love people you love can feel for them.
So just for once, come out of your comfort zone,
that protective shield you have made around you and try to do what your heart really wants. Pack
your bag and take a hike, go and visit your folks for next festival, take a
day-off and watch the soccer match of your favorite team. Go and tell that ‘someone
right’ how much you love them. How important they are to you and why you belong
together.
Don’t be scared of being
revoked or rejected. Utmost it could be a mistake but to know if it is a
mistake or not, you got to do the mistake. Only then you can look at the past
and say ‘Yup, that was a mistake.’
But if you won’t even try, you would never know if it was a mistake or not and
thus, the bigger mistake is not to do that mistake. Don’t live a mistake-free
life.
Mistakes are the moments just
before awesome changes happen in your life.
Until tomorrow,
Sanj
